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Does it?
Saturday, Nov. 24, 2007 5:08 PM

�The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about.� - Oscar Wilde

There's a point that you reach in every relationship, good or bad, where you can't turn around and go back to the way things used to be. Bit by bit, the illusion of the relationship is torn away and you start to see a completely different version of the friend than what you're used to. No longer are they a confidant... and you wonder, deep down, what made you trust them in the first place.

Gossip is like a disease. It eats away at you until there's barely a glimpse of your old self left. And whether a person likes it or not, there's guilt by association. Sure, maybe they don't SAY anything negative about you, preferring instead to just listen and utter monosyllabic responses to the person doing the talking, but that makes them just as guilty as the gossip. They are guilty because they don't nip the gossip in the bud. They don't stand up for you and be a true friend. How can you trust them if they don't say anything? You can't. You can't because deep down they may agree with the gossip. What kind of friend does that make them?

Bit by bit, little truths come seeping out. Bit by bit, you find that some of the things you shared with this friend in complete confidence has been leaked out by this friend to the most selfish of gossips. Bit by bit, you forgive until something else leaks out. The last thing to leak out was a very private matter, and I am not sure I can even forgive this friend for this one. This one truly draws the line.

What does one do when they're faced with the fact that their friend isn't at all who they expected? Do they let them go, bit by bit, until there's nothing left to save? Or do they let them go completely, cutting the friendship off before there's nothing left to salvage?

Either way, the friendship is over... so I guess it doesn't really matter, does it?

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